Questions about Therapy

What is Counselling or Psychotherapy?

Counselling or Psychotherapy is essentially working with someone who is trained to actively listen and interpret what is going on for you without any judgement. Therapy offers you a safe, confidential place where you will feel validated and able to explore whatever you may feel is confusing or painful. 

How can talking about it help me?

Counselling gives you the space to air troubling thoughts or feelings without concern about the response you might receive. This allows you the freedom and space to reflect and understand yourself, your situation & your relationships.

Counsellors are trained to help increase your self-awareness, bringing issues, beliefs or themes in your life into your awareness so that you may better understand or change them. 

How do you work? What’s your philosophy?

I look to understand you as a whole. A diagnosis or term for what you are experiencing can be useful, but it’s only a part of your experience. So its also important to understand how you experience the world, your relationships and how they influence you. We can then understand why you might be feeling the way you are.

With self awareness and understanding you will be more empowered to change or accept whatever is troubling you. I will help you understand yourself and find the resources and answers within you so you can find a way forward which is authentic for you.

I’m worried i’m beyond help or broken, how can you help?

Many of us grow up believing we are broken or inadequate due to the way we are treated, comparing ourselves to others or due to stigma. The truth is it is normal to have struggles in life, just like it is normal for us to have physical health issues. Whatever it is you are struggling with, you are not broken, there are reasons that you feel the way you do. Our job together is to make sense of these feelings and to understand what they are telling you.

Thankfully things are slowly changing with awareness around mental health improving with 33% of people having attending Counselling according to one study

How can you be an expert on my life?

Put simply I am not, everyone has unique life experience and I respect that. However I am experienced in helping people to understand their own life. 

My role is to support you in making your own decisions by working through how you feel rather than giving advice from my perspective. As a result you will become more in touch with your own needs and more in control of your own life.

What do I talk about?

The simple answer to this is whatever you feel like talking about. You know what is on your mind and bothering you. It might be something that happened that week, your relationship, life events, family or friends or how you feel at that moment.

It’s my job to ensure you feel comfortable enough to speak openly. I will ensure that your sessions remain therapeutic by helping you explore whatever you bring. Its important that we are both as honest as possible in therapy, as the more honest we are the more effectively we can work together.

What else can counselling do for me?

Counselling is also a very effective method of promoting personal growth and quality of life. Counselling can help improve your self-esteem, relationships, confidence in making decisions and give you clarity on your own life direction.

Whilst Counselling can be very challenging, many people ultimately feel empowered by Therapy, enjoy the process of feeling understood and and ultimately improving relationships with others.

Will I feel better straight away?

Everyone’s experience of Counselling is different but it is important to be realistic about your expectations. Many people experience an immediate relief in talking about something they have been carrying around for some time.

However, due to the nature of what you may be talking about it is also possible that you will be bringing up difficult feelings or experiences. A positive shift will become more noticeable after a period of sessions. Most importantly you are in control of your therapy and you should feel comfortable talking about your progress or frustrations.

What if I start to feel worse?

If you are exploring painful feelings or events its possible you may feel worse in the short term before you feel better. This is often a natural part of dealing with difficult changes, processing feelings and challenging a way you have learnt to be. If you have learnt to avoid dealing with difficult feelings its normal for this to be challenging.  Your Counsellor will help you manage this, you should always be as open with this as you can so they can help support you and work at your pace. 

Can you guarantee I will get better?

Counselling is not a universal solution, there are no cast iron guarantees in life and should any Therapist offer you such a promise, I would warn that this is not ethical practice. What I can certainly say is that I am absolutely committed to helping and supporting you to move forwards. We will work together to overcome whatever you may bring.

 If you would like to speak to me or make a low-cost appointment to see how you feel about counselling, simply contact me and drop me a message.  I’m here for you.


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