Therapy Questions

What is Counselling/ Psychotherapy?

Counselling or psychotherapy is essentially working with someone who is trained to actively listen to what is going on for you without any judgements. Therapy offers you a safe, confidential place where you feel validated and able to explore whatever you may feel is confusing or painful. 

How can talking about it help me?

Counselling gives you the space to air troubling thoughts or feelings without having to worry about the response you might receive. This allows you the freedom and space to understand yourself & your relationships.

Counsellors are trained to help increase your self-awareness, bringing issues, beliefs or themes in your life into your awareness so that you may better understand them or act upon them.

Is there something wrong with me if I go to Counselling?

The simple answer is no, in fact you are taking responsibility and action to change things by going to Counselling. Many of us grow up believing we are broken or inadequate due to this stigma and our damaging interactions with others.  Stigma and awareness around mental health have improved with 33% of people having attending Counselling according to one study* Unfortunately there is much work still to be done.    

How can you be an expert on my life?

Put simply I am not. However I am experienced in helping people to understand their own life. Counselling is not about telling you how to live your life, it is about helping you understand what is happening in your life and how you want change things.

My role is to support you in making your own decisions by working through how you feel rather than giving advice from my perspective. As a result you will become more in touch with your own needs and more in control of your own life.

What do I talk about?

The simple answer to this is whatever you feel like talking about. It might be something that happened that week, your relationship, life events, family or friends or how you feel at that moment.

You should feel free to talk openly about whatever you feel. I will ensure that your sessions remain therapeutic by helping you explore whatever you bring. Its important that we are both as honest as possible in therapy, as the more honest we are the more effectively we can work together.

What else can counselling do for me?

Counselling is also a very effective method of promoting personal growth and quality of life. Counselling can help improve your self-esteem, relationships, confidence in making decisions and give you clarity on your own life direction.  Whilst Counselling can be very challenging, many people ultimately feel empowered by Therapy and relish the journey of becoming more self-aware and improving relationships with others.

Will I feel better straight away?

Everyone’s experience of Counselling is different but it is important to be realistic about your expectations. Many people experience an immediate relief in talking about something they have been carrying around for some time.

However, due to the nature of what you may be talking about it is also possible that you will be bringing up difficult feelings or experiences. A positive shift may become more noticeable after a period of sessions. Most importantly you are in control of your therapy and you should feel comfortable talking about your progress or frustrations, this is part of the process.

What if I start to feel worse?

If you are exploring painful feelings or events its possible you may feel worse in the short term before you feel better. This is often a natural part of dealing with difficult changes, processing feelings and challenging a way you have learnt to be. If this happens you should always tell your Counsellor. 

Can you guarantee I will get better?

Counselling is not a universal solution, I cannot guarantee this and should any Counsellor or Therapist offer you such a promise, I would warn that this is not ethical practice. What I can say is that I am absolutely committed to helping and supporting you to move forwards, in a confidential, safe environment where we can work together to overcome whatever you may bring.

If you would like to speak to me or make a low-cost appointment to see how you feel about counselling, don’t hesitate to contact me.  I’m here for you.

*BACP Public Perception survey 2019