How do we find balance in a stressful world?

How do we find balance in a stressful world?
Within the past century in the West we have become consumed with a more individualistic way of life. Self-reliance and independence have become increasingly valued. As a result we have learnt to look inwards for the solutions to our problems and purpose. There is certainly worth in looking inwards to better understand ourselves (introspection). However, ...

Why it’s not Laziness you’re struggling with

Why it’s not Laziness you’re struggling with
Most of us have at some point told ourselves to stop being lazy or accused others of being lazy. Rarely do we stop to try to understand the person, their situation or what laziness actually means. So how do we choose to define Laziness? Oxford Online Dictionary defines laziness as : Disinclined to activity or ...

Is Modern Media Affecting Your Mood?

Is Modern Media Affecting Your Mood?
Our mood system is ordinarily very robust, for the most part we deal with knock backs and obstacles within a relatively short period of upset. Whether it’s an argument with a partner, the car breaking down or something tragic we see on the news; we experience upset or annoyance but ordinarily our mood bounces back ...

Social Anxiety and your Shrinking Comfort Zone

Social Anxiety and your Shrinking Comfort Zone
The nature of anxiety is that it erodes your sense of security and safety and as it takes hold your comfort zone becomes smaller. I’ve described anxiety previously in Understanding anxiety and cultivating courage as an invisible prison cell where the cell bars can slowly close in on you; suffocating your sense of self and ...

5 Things To Avoid When Supporting Someone who’s Struggling

When someone we care about comes to us for help or in distress we naturally want to help them. However, we aren’t taught how to deal with people who are vulnerable or in distress. This can leave us feeling powerless and we fumble for something to take that away. In seeking to fix the problem ...

How To Get The Most Out Of Your Therapy

How you engage with counselling is a major factor in how effective it can be for you and how much you get out of it. Whilst you cannot control how engaged your therapist is or whether you have a natural rapport; you can be aware of and influence how much you are willing to put ...

Understanding Anxiety and Cultivating Courage

Understanding Anxiety and Cultivating Courage
What is anxiety? Feelings of anxiety are natural in all of us and for the most part do not adversely affect us, but there are many complex reasons why for some people they become unmanageable and overwhelming. It’s helpful to start by understanding where anxiety comes from in simple terms, as it helps us to ...

Improve your Relationships with Emotional Honesty

Improve your Relationships with Emotional Honesty
We all know that at times relationships of all kinds can feel like hard work. Whether it’s family, friends or romantic, relationships are often a major source of stress in our lives. Having disagreements or arguments is perfectly natural. If we spend a lot of time with people and care about them, sooner or later ...

Do you Struggle to say No?

Do you Struggle to say No?
One of the themes I have noticed in counselling is how people can often spend many years focused on pleasing others with barely a thought for themselves. Whilst being generous and giving are undoubtedly good things to be, if we learn that we are valued primarily for being the one who goes the extra mile ...

What Happens When Whatever You Do Is Not Good Enough?

What Happens When Whatever You Do Is Not Good Enough?
Perfectionism can lead to destructive levels of stress, anxiety and depression. It’s a common pattern which we can easily fall into without realising it and it’s important to understand we can all suffer through it at times. So what is perfectionism? Often the natural assumption is that being a perfectionist is about being brilliant at ...